Happily Ever Before
Most fairytale stories end with the pretty princess living happily ever after she finds love with her prince. Love with another person is fantastic. Love with yourself, however, is necessary before you can be happy after finding someone to love. Think Simple Now – super site for discovering and sharing happiness and personal growth- posted an article last week titled “Yup, I Got Hitched”. It’s about Tina, the author, traveling various paths to finding love.
The love to which she discovered was with herself. Often, we think that we will be happy after meeting someone to share a relationship with, all while we neglect to have a solid relationship with ourselves. We overlook the time we are given to get to know the things we like. We dwell on the alone time and think that something is wrong with us when it’s really an opportunity to connect with our own selves.
As we age we never, ever stop changing. We will change with or without a partner. It’s important to realize this because sometimes people are surprised when their partner evolves. Many couples think that because “things changed” that the relationship is finished. Perhaps the better we know and expect change personally, the smoother it will be when another person is involved.
Live is all about discovering new interests and trying new hobbies. Some people find a soul mate early in life and others don’t. Simply put. People are ready to grow with another person at different times in their lives. The best thing to do in the times that you feel lonely is to enhance the relationship with you. Socialize with family and friends and explore new things just to add a layer to yourself. Deepen the levels of your personality.
Give yourself the same talks that you would a good friend when you find that you’re discouraged. Overlook little “imperfections” and realize that they are really unique personal characteristics. Treat yourself with the same kindness that you give others, try new things. Listen to different music, try new food, explore a new exercise, see art. You are with yourself all the time so you might as well like ya! And then you can live happily ever before, during, and after.-ed
Great post! And oh so true!
Thank you. It’s a challenge for some but important for all.