More How To Win And Not Compete
How To Win And Not Compete is a challenge that requires focus towards a goal without letting external factors interfere. It can be easy to get shaken and discouraged when it feels like all of your efforts keep getting squashed by the “competition”. Don’t give up, you can win without competing.
There are three ways to help you re-focus when you feel like external affairs are interfering with your mindset. If you write your goals, chart your progress, and get a mentor (Do You Need A Mentor) you have a much better chance of keeping your eyes on your prize. Let’s use an example situation.
Let’s say that you are a student working to pay the bills. Full time or part time, it doesn’t matter – but you work hard for your money. Along come a co-worker blabbering about his/her promotion and raise. Instantly, you feel threatened, slighted, and want to give up. Here’s where your 3 powers come into play.
1. Write Your Goals – as soon as your co-worker drops the bomb you should refer back to your list of goals. You see that you are working to pay the bills, finishing school is your priority – not getting ahead at the place that you are at temporarily. Of course do the best job at any job you commit to do, but remember that sometimes things are not permanent and your situation is merely a stepping stone to get you to where you want to be.
2. Chart Your Progress – After you finish summer school write it on a progress chart. If you got your writing published (pay or not) chart it. Next time you feel wiped out and slighted for your work, pull out your chart and see your gain. It’s easy to forget all the accomplishments that we make because we tend give negative intrusions more power. Turn it around with a chart.
3. Get A Mentor – I have more than one mentor. Each has a different role but each one gives me a good reality check. I have the tendency to get frustrated very easily and I begin to wonder if I should bother with my efforts. When I check in with my mentor, I get a great balance of positive reinforcement and constructive criticism.
If you try these three simple steps you will find it much easier to stay in focus. You will realize that your goals are just that – yours. They are not the same as your co-worker, friend, or other and therefore, you should respect your own race. You can achieve your goals if you are true to your goals. You can’t put unleaded fuel in a diesel truck and expect it to run. You have to give it what it needs to keep running strong. -ed